Eharmony - too choosy?

Bearing in mind my last post about being too choosy, it would appear that actually it's eharmony. A friend has just signed up to see her matches and found that there were none! Is this common, has this happened to others. Frankly I daren't look.

This is the friend responsible for this site mind - steamy stories. Maybe they have a point about her state of mind!

Is there such a thing as being too choosy?

My bestest, most delectable friend stayed overnight and my apologies to the whole of the south of England for the incessant chattering and giggling that you may have been able to hear. On the plus side, much frustration and indignation has been dissipated so we're happy bunnies again. For the time being.

She is also, to all intents and purposes single athough there are men in her life. Here are her choices:

1. A somewhat snobby guy who questions her on the meaning of the words he's just used. Nothing more romantic than a little test of the intellect is there?
2. Mr 'Brings-a-Little-Old-ashioned-Romance-But-Also-Brings-the-Smarm-Factor'. Very keen on valuing her friendship but gets irritated when she doesn't want to go to bed.
   
3. A guy who everyone thinks is perfect (herself included) but he just can't bring himself to make a decision about what he wants. He's just 'so confused'.
4. A guy she knew in the past but has had problems with alcohol abuse and isn't fully recovered as yet. He got a bit aggressive with her and then promptly followed this up by asking her out.
   

So, next time someone tells me that I'm being too choosy, I'm going to enlighten them to some of the pitfalls of the dating game in your thirties! Of course, if you're a guy, I'm sure you have your horror stories too. Love to hear them!

Holidays without tears

Whatever you do, don't look at the last date that I posted. I said DON'T look! If you are thinking that I have been hiding from my blog out of the shame and embarrassment of starting a blog on dating and then failing to do any, what's the word... dating, you'd be right. 

And I have also been to Cornwall on holiday. With my mum.

Now you may think that's sad but I had a conversation with a friend just after discussing holidays with a friend or Mum, versus holidays with boyfriends. Guess which ones came out on top? 

Uh Oh - 40

I spent the day with a friend yesterday who was celebrating her 40th birthday. Delightful though the day was, the elephant in the room was her singleness. Well, it was until we started to talk about it and it wasn't so bad in the end. But she has decided to put her skates on and give it all another try. 

So how possible is this? Because the more I talk to the single middle agers out there, the more it doesn't seem to be all that likely. Is it? Have you found differently? 

Love Is a Many Squandered Thing

I'm not great fan of Cheryl Cole - by which I mean that her contribution to the world of entertainment hardly registers in my world rather than an active dislike of her - but she certainly seems to be going through a hard time. Married for 4 years and cheated on for what seems like a minimum of 5 times. For someone considered so beautiful and is an official 'nation's sweatheart' marital bliss has eluded her.

I'm always surprised by infidelity. I can quite understand the odd mistake, drunken flings or moments of weakness when a relationship hits bad times. But calculated cheating is unfathomable to me as I can't understand how someone could possibly cope with the guilt. Lying is difficult when you have to do it. Why you'd consider it as a lifestyle choice is beyond me.

But I also consider it from a new perspective these days, being single. I've seen many a person lose someone they later claim they loved due to their cheating and I can't help but despair at how little they seemed to value what they had. They know afterwards of course, when it's gone, but that's too bad.

For those who would love to have someone special in their life, there is a recognition that love is not a right or a guarantee in this life. That people who have it and squander it is kind of sad.

Dating News!

Ok, I've been on a date! Not a successful one but hey, at least I did it. Now all I need to do is keep it up! It was actually a very pleasant evening and I had a lot of fun. Only trouble is - I didn't fancy the guy. I'm not even sure why seeing as he ticked quite a few of the right boxes (just a figure of speech, I do NOT have a check list in reality). He was interesting, funny, clever and totally absorbing when he talked about something he was passionate about. But ultimately, he'd make a great friend and I just can't envisage things going any further.

Oh well, at least it's given me my faith back - there are still nice, single guys left out there!

Valentine’s Day - I Know How To Show a Girl a Good Time

I’m beginning to think this blogging is bad for my dating drive. I’ve hardly had a date since I started! So I was very disappointed at myself this Valentine’s Day to find I had not secured so much as even a sniff of a date. But immediately after decided that this would not hold me back from enjoying a little champagne and watching some chick flicks. Actually, it wasn’t so much a flick as a TV series, Lost in Austen - which is this if you haven’t heard of it. True indulgence!

There’s a great line near the beginning where Amanda (the main character) says to her mum that what she loves about Pride and Prejudice is the manners, that it’s become part of who she is - that she has standards. Her mum replies that she hopes her standards helps her on with her coat when she’s 70. Note to self - stop becoming a character in a drama based on a character in a book!